Identity and The Need to be Needed

Finding Purpose

The need to be needed is one of our fundamental desires. We want to feel significant in the eyes of others, even if it is only one other person. We want to feel like we play an important role, whether in an organization, family, or life of another. The need to be needed is rooted in our need for a sense of contribution to something beyond ourselves. When this need is unfulfilled in the case of job loss, divorce, or life-transitions, we may find ourselves beginning to doubt our sense of contribution that gives us a sense of purpose and direction. It is the ability to feel needed through our specific method of contribution that gives us our sense of identity.

As described in my last post, an identity crisis can result from a lack of identity when role confusion occurs, as discussed by Erik Erikson. Building on Erikson’s conception…

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